Siraan, tsismisan, etc.

Ayara

10-11-2005, 03:34 PM

Im 2 and a half year here in japan and worked in different kaishas where I can get along with other Filipina but sad to say ive seen them having tsismis and siraan and even fighting during time of work. My cousin also told me to be careful in dealing with co filipina. I want to have a friend but im afraid she might be a traitor. Can somebody have an idea why between filipina there are siraan and tsismis. . .:confused:

tank

10-11-2005, 04:05 PM

Im 2 and a half year here in japan and worked in different kaishas where I can get along with other Filipina but sad to say ive seen them having tsismis and siraan and even fighting during time of work. My cousin also told me to be careful in dealing with co filipina. I want to have a friend but im afraid she might be a traitor. Can somebody have an idea why between filipina there are siraan and tsismis. . .:confused:It’s a part of Filipino culture and manner. That’s one way of Filipino past time and yes, the best thing you can do is to be careful.

c2ny2

10-11-2005, 04:17 PM

Hi Ayara, Ugali na ng iba yan. Lalo na kapagka wala silang pinagkaka abalahan. Mahirap mabuhay sa paligaid ng may ganyang situation. The best thing for you to do is… deadmahin mo nalang at huwang ka ng sumali o di kaya ay mag react sa isang issue. Parang mga marinong pinoy din, Dapat marunong kang makipaglaro. Iwas, iwas, at iwasan mo nalang.

Raiden

10-11-2005, 04:22 PM

Im 2 and a half year here in japan and worked in different kaishas where I can get along with other Filipina but sad to say ive seen them having tsismis and siraan and even fighting during time of work. My cousin also told me to be careful in dealing with co filipina. I want to have a friend but im afraid she might be a traitor. Can somebody have an idea why between filipina there are siraan and tsismis. . .:confused:

Kahit dito sa US may mga Pinay din ganyan.

Here are my observation towards souring relationship between Pinays who work together.

  1. Masaya - exchanging pleasantries, talking about home, family, tele novelas, showbiz gossip, etc.

  2. Payabangan - “all the things in my life are better than yours” attitude.

  3. Inggitan - “bakit siya meron nung bagay na gusto ko, eh ako ang paboritong anak ni Lord” attitude.

  4. Tsismisan, siraan, backstabbing - Alliances are formed and broken by smearing each other with every unpleasant rumors, to gain political leverage within the Filipino group or to elevate oneself from the others.

  5. WAR - Intentionally antagonizing the rival group, even thogh it affects productivity in the work place, and creates a hostile atmosphere.

Just my observations. I’m just the guy on the outside, looking in.

If they could only be more professional, they would get along just fine, which is also applicable to everybody, to every profession, right?

But I’m sure all the TF members know better than some of our misguided kababayans.:slight_smile: So whenever we get a chance, let’s remind them that it is counter-productive to behave in such manner, and it puts Filipinos in a bad light.

As for Pinoys, lahat ng di pagkakaunawaan ay dinadaan sa ma-boteng usapan. :toast:

honey

10-11-2005, 04:32 PM

para sa akin natural na lang yan sa kahit sinong nilalang matutong makisama at 'wag silang tularan.:slight_smile:

ichimar

10-11-2005, 04:47 PM

wag mong pansinin ang naninira sa iyo,kung papatulan moy lalo ka lang aasarin,ganyan talaga kasama sa buhay yan,buti pa dito sa tf,laging masaya:)

docomo

10-11-2005, 05:15 PM

I suggest right choice of friends … :slight_smile:

fremsite

10-11-2005, 08:20 PM

I suggest right choice of friends … :slight_smile:

i agree with docomo san … " right choice of friends " … is the best thing you can do…:smiley:

Chibi

10-11-2005, 09:04 PM

maki ride ka na lang…pagkatapos ng work goodbye !!!:yesyes:

Ayara

10-12-2005, 03:25 PM

Kahit dito sa US may mga Pinay din ganyan.

Here are my observation towards souring relationship between Pinays who work together.

  1. Masaya - exchanging pleasantries, talking about home, family, tele novelas, showbiz gossip, etc.

  2. Payabangan - “all the things in my life are better than yours” attitude.

  3. Inggitan - “bakit siya meron nung bagay na gusto ko, eh ako ang paboritong anak ni Lord” attitude.

  4. Tsismisan, siraan, backstabbing - Alliances are formed and broken by smearing each other with every unpleasant rumors, to gain political leverage within the Filipino group or to elevate oneself from the others.

  5. WAR - Intentionally antagonizing the rival group, even thogh it affects productivity in the work place, and creates a hostile atmosphere.

Just my observations. I’m just the guy on the outside, looking in.

If they could only be more professional, they would get along just fine, which is also applicable to everybody, to every profession, right?

But I’m sure all the TF members know better than some of our misguided kababayans.:slight_smile: So whenever we get a chance, let’s remind them that it is counter-productive to behave in such manner, and it puts Filipinos in a bad light.

As for Pinoys, lahat ng di pagkakaunawaan ay dinadaan sa ma-boteng usapan. :toast:

I agree of Raiden’s reply about (good :confused:) characteristics common among filipinas. Im also a filipina and I say im not a good one becoz im an introvert and mapili in finding friends. Im just hoping our children will not get these traits from us. (Dont judge me this is just an opinion)

nikita

10-12-2005, 04:09 PM

inintindi pa ba yang mga ganyang klaseng pinay:ohlord: ang wrinkles,careful

Raiden

10-12-2005, 04:11 PM

I agree of Raiden’s reply about (good :confused:) characteristics common among filipinas. Im also a filipina and I say im not a good one becoz im an introvert and mapili in finding friends. Im just hoping our children will not get these traits from us. (Dont judge me this is just an opinion)

Hi Ayara,

Don’t think of yourself as not a good Filipina because you’re an introvert. Maganda rin minsan kung medyo tahimik ka sa trabaho, because no one will try to bother you, and you get more things done. Less distactions, di ba? Okay din makipag-socialize, basta ilagay lang sa lugar, and papakiramdaman mo rin yung mga tao na nakikipaghalubilo sa iyo, kung mabuti o maldita. :slight_smile:

Dax

10-12-2005, 04:17 PM

Im 2 and a half year here in japan and worked in different kaishas where I can get along with other Filipina but sad to say ive seen them having tsismis and siraan and even fighting during time of work…

Eto ang advice ni Sampaguita:

"Wag mong pansinin ang naninira sa 'yo
Basta’t alam mo lang, tama ang ginagawa mo
Wag mong isipin, wag mong dibdibin
Kung papatulan mo’y lalo ka lang aasarin.

Chorus:
Nosi, nosi ba lasi
Sino, sino ba sila
Nosi, nosi ba lasi
Sino, sino ba sila?

ltuloy mo lang, gawin ang gusto mo
Walang mangyayari kung sila’y papansinin mo
Talagang ganyan, wag mo lang patulan
Wala lang magawa kaya sila’y nagkakaganyan."

Tapos repeat chorus daw. :wink:

Ayara

10-12-2005, 04:22 PM

U know Dax u made me laughed !!!:stuck_out_tongue: :stuck_out_tongue: :stuck_out_tongue:

Ayara

10-12-2005, 04:24 PM

Thanks for the advice Raiden !!! :slight_smile: :slight_smile:
U know Dax u made me laughed !!!:stuck_out_tongue: :stuck_out_tongue: :stuck_out_tongue:

myukasky

10-12-2005, 04:45 PM

Ay dapat mo nga silang iwasan na, ganyan din naexperienced ko. Kala ko napakasuwerte ko na at may kaibigan ako at pinay pa:( at tama din yung pumili ka ng magiging kaibigan, marami pa namang mabuting kapwa natin pero pili ka lang:D Ako nga kaibigan ko ngayon dito sa place namin eh japanese at thai, halimbawa lang na siraan or gawaan ako ng kwento at least di ko sila kababayan di na masyado masakit:) pero okey naman sila, sabi nga nila friendly pala mga firipinjin:D :smiley: Pakikisama lang naman ang the best pero kung may nakikita kang di na maganda ikaw na umiwas. Sa experienced ko sa naging kaibigan kong mga pinay dito, naging aral sila lahat sa akin. Sayang nga lang di nila pinangalagaan yung friendship namin kung friendship nga ba tawag doon:( Nakasama ko din sila sa work, kaso napagod ako kasi kapag di sila pumapasok asked yung sacho namin pati ako nadadamay sa mga kasinungalingan nila:( hirap pa naman magsinungaling na yung pinagsinungalingan mo eh araw araw mo nakikita, kaya ayon tumigil na ako sa work:D at masaya naman ako kahit wala sila at tahimik pa buhay ko.:stuck_out_tongue: At higit sa lahat buti may TF:D :smiley:

Ayara

10-12-2005, 05:03 PM

Tama sinabi mo Myukasky:) my friends too are chinese, indonesiajin and japanese. Konting pkikisama lang ok na. But kung sa Pilipina pkikisamahan mo na nang mabuti kailangan mo pang magingat then sa bandang huli may pintas ka pa rin.Anyway we have this site wherein we Filipina can be friends and share our thoughs without hesitance. Anyway treasure your new friends and goodluck!!! Peace . . . . . http://www.tiedyes.com/peacebuttonimages/whitepeacehandonrbow sm.jpg

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