Why are Japanese men sometimes hard to understand?

mica

10-15-2005, 10:41 PM

ang hirap nilang intindihin:cry:

docomo

10-15-2005, 11:00 PM

… anong pong basehan mo kung bakit di mo sila maintindihan?:slight_smile:

fremsite

10-15-2005, 11:09 PM

ang hirap nilang intindihin:cry:

what’s wrong ? ano ang di mo maintindihan sa mga japanese men ?
post it , baka makatulong … lalo na dito sa tf , maraming good people
and yung iba , may mga asawang japanese din ( like me ) …share it :slight_smile:

myukasky

10-15-2005, 11:15 PM

what’s wrong ? ano ang di mo maintindihan sa mga japanese men ?
post it , baka makatulong … lalo na dito sa tf , maraming good people
and yung iba , may mga asawang japanese din ( like me ) …share it :slight_smile:

Tama si fremsite share mo baka may maitulong kami sayo:D Japanese din husband ko. Kung okey lang sayo? Kung di mo kasi sasabihin ang reason kung bakit di mo maintindihan, wala kaming idea. :smiley: :smiley:

Teddy

10-15-2005, 11:31 PM

ang hirap nilang intindihin:cry:

Pa…papaano?!:eek: :yikes: :skull:

Hungry eyes

10-15-2005, 11:44 PM

well jap din hubby ko…totoo minsan mahirap intindihin kasi iba ang culture…language…a nd bringing up nila…so iba ang mentalidad…pero sana linawin mo…para magkaintidihan tayo dito diba.just share it…

mica

10-16-2005, 12:04 AM

… anong pong basehan mo kung bakit di mo sila maintindihan?:slight_smile: kasi parang ang laki ng pinagbago nya :frowning:

gabby

10-16-2005, 12:06 AM

ang hirap nilang intindihin:cry:

It is true that Japanese men have peculiarities according to my wife, which can be traced back to the past. As if I cared. But I do think that women have to deal their own issues against men. It is women who are very hard to understand sometimes. We always try to understand you but you don’t. When we give you an inch you ask for a mile or more. Sometimes you need to understand that at any one time men need some private space. We love to think that we are in control of the world pero hito kayo mga babae nangungulit kayo, para kayong mga bata, naa-aborido yung utak namin tuloy pero mahal namin kayo ha. Heh he he opniyon lang yan ha? Please no war of the sexes here Heh he he. . .

mica

10-16-2005, 12:12 AM

totoo pala ang sabi nila na kapag hindi mo makasama sa isang bubong hindi mo makikita ang tunay na ugali,my husband is 29 yrs.old same as me parang lumabas ang tunay na ugali:(

mica

10-16-2005, 12:15 AM

yeah i admit sometimes na mahirap din kaming intindihin:)

Hungry eyes

10-16-2005, 12:17 AM

malaki ipinagbago nya? you know there’s no permanent in this world .even human feelings.kasama yan sa buhay.hindi kaya nagbago ka din?sometimes we need to do self searching.and better ask your husband.if you dont get an answer.keep quiet and watch.dont think too much.and its true sometimes men need a space and women also.give your self a break.goodnight…

mica

10-16-2005, 12:24 AM

kasi parang ang laki ng pinagbago nya ngayon unlike before his so sweet and always saying luv u:D pero ngayon nawala na yon,simula nong nag-work ako sa american base parang naging cold na sya.at natutu ng mag-lie sa akin kasi alam ko nasusulsulan ng mga friends nya kasi yong mga friends nya kahit may asawa na nambababae:mad:

mica

10-16-2005, 12:34 AM

thank you to your opinion:chatter: goodnite:sleep:

gabby

10-16-2005, 12:37 AM

kasi parang ang laki ng pinagbago nya ngayon unlike before his so sweet and always saying luv u:D pero ngayon nawala na yon,simula nong nag-work ako sa american base parang naging cold na sya.at natutu ng mag-lie sa akin kasi alam ko nasusulsulan ng mga friends nya kasi yong mga friends nya kahit may asawa na nambababae:mad:

That does not solely inherent to Japanese men but to every man in the world. Marami yan sa komiks,films and t.v. Ang solusyon niyan, nasa inyo iyan kung gaano kataas ang level nang maturity ninyong dalawa. Kasamahan ko sa trabho hiwalay na sa kanilang mga asawang hapon.

mica

10-16-2005, 12:49 AM

same as my cousins lahat sila hiwalay pero nag-asawa ulit ng hapon:chatter: have cousin also na nandito pero hindi ko alam kung nasaan ayaw nyang sabihin ang add nya,anyway all i need to do is to be patient alang ala sa mga anak ko:) thank you so much,goodnite:sleep: hearing an opinion from u guys is taking away all my stress:D :yippee:

City_rabbit

10-16-2005, 12:56 AM

Sorry but I was reading your post, I think you have to read the guidelines in posting again. Remember - no bold fonts:)

adechan

10-16-2005, 01:31 AM

mika dear … sounds natural in many married life. there were changes on your schedules, probably napapagod ka because you are already working, maaaring naghahanap siya nang mas maraming attention pero hindi niya makuha, or some other reasons, na both of you didn’t know your situations and feelings and think the other way around, kaya parang cold siya at hindi mo maintindihan, baka siya ganon din ang feel nya sa yo.

i believe, if you truly love your husband there is always a way to make your marriage life better, and mas malaki pa ang chance to make it better if your husband loves you.

usually nang failed marriages are not characters and attitudes, but usually it is either money or the love that was lost.

about characters and attitudes, may point din nagiging reason if those are of worst, and came to peak na mas mabigat na ang timbang kesa sa pagmamahal.

maraming mga hiwalay, lalo na sabi mo iyong mga cousin mo.
i had seen so many din, and i know many kababayan here in Timog na maraming alam tungkol dyan, but I had seen many marriage life na nag-survive after all trials and hard times, probably councelling, advices, sharing, and most of all prayers, help their way for saving their marriage life.

sa aking experience … some key point of lasting marriage is LOVE, and children, some don’t have children but they have LOVE

docomo

10-16-2005, 02:30 AM

Adding my two cents with something simple …I’ts just a matter of choosing the right partner for life and “take it from there” …adjustments have to be made ,sacrifices and commitments …give and take… it works :slight_smile:

Teddy

10-16-2005, 03:28 AM

kasi parang ang laki ng pinagbago nya :frowning:

Ouch!!! Iyan ang sinasabi ng wife ko lagi…:stuck_out_tongue: :rolleyes: :open_mouth: That’s why Korean dramas and actors are so popular among middle-aged wives here in Japan. They all say thier husbands are not sweet any more like those actors in dramas. I admit that Japanese men are not as good in expressing thier love as Filipino men and those Korean men…:frowning: It’s still considered “hiya” to hug and kiss in front of other people.(Teen couples don’t seem to care about such things any more, though.) I have never heard my parents say “I love you” to each other and I don’t even want to hear them say that because it’s like “ewww”:smiley: to me. That’s our culture. We have a lot of “silent language” that makes us more “mysterious” to foreigners. I’m fully aware of that. Your hubby could say, “Why can’t you see that I love you? I work all day and night to support you. Do I always have to say I love you to prove that?”. That’s a Japanese way…maybe not a good one, though… My parents trust each other even without me hearing I love you to each other even once in my life, but I know that. But my wife(Jap) is different. She grew up watching a lot of American movies, so…:open_mouth: Maybe my wife and you have a lot in common in this matter…:rolleyes:

I believe more communication, more understanding(less misunderstanding):wink: Good luck, mica-san!

Chibi

10-16-2005, 09:14 AM

totoo pala ang sabi nila na kapag hindi mo makasama sa isang bubong hindi mo makikita ang tunay na ugali,my husband is 29 yrs.old same as me parang lumabas ang tunay na ugali:(

True Mica kahit mabait pa sila lumalabas pa rin ang ugaling hapon. Buti na lang tong asawa ko medyo takyut!!hehhehheeh!U sap na lang kayo.:slight_smile:

patianles

10-16-2005, 01:37 PM

tama nasa pag uusap din nyo yan.i think same din naman sa pinoy ganun din minsan mahirap intindihin di b? …pero ako din e yun boss ko mahirap din intindihn hehe lalo na pag me regla juk…i mean wala sa mood di ko alam kung bakit pag minsan naksimangot dapat tyempuhan mo…hehhe pero wala namn pinakitang bad sakin yung boss ko.2.5 years na po ako dito sa japan.pero mabait naman sila.

DJchot

10-16-2005, 02:43 PM

sabi nga ni Gabby, di lang applicable sa japanese men tong complaint mo. people change. mapahapon, pinoy, puti, babae o lalake. ganyan talaga ang mangyayari kung di mo lubos pang kilala ang napangasawa mo. it’s also true na meron pa ring mga hidden traits ang partner mo na madidiscover mo lang once nakasama mo na sa iisang bubong. kasama lahat yan sa mga adjustments na gagawin mo once you enter the married life.

all you need to do is to talk to your hubby… sabihin mo yung mga sentiments mo…

mica

10-16-2005, 05:41 PM

tama kayong lahat:) at natutuwa ako on all your opinions:king: its true that getting to be married is a lot of adjustments.unfortun ately i called my mom i ask her about on this topic and she answered me things to make my mind so clear she told me na kaya mo nga pinakasalan ang asawa mo dahil mahal mo sya and you have to accept all the good and bad in him,which is so right…Malambing kasi akong tao which is i want to be pampered always,and i know naman na his a jap not a fil so siguro nakukumpara ko na sya which is wrong naman db?You guys mabait talaga si lord kasi lastnite my hubby hugs me so tight na kinaiyak ko,and guest what he said luv u mama:sweeties: ewan ko ba siguro he feels na naging malungkot ako lately.he said sorry and yun na ok na kami…sabi nya mahal na mahal daw nya ako at ako lang ang gusto nyang makasama habang buhay:love: hay salamat sa inyong lahat:toast:

DJchot

10-16-2005, 06:24 PM

that’s good to know! :slight_smile:

inuman na! :toast:

:mohawk:

Hungry eyes

10-16-2005, 11:48 PM

thats good to know.best of luck.pingkian(cheers ) tagalog yun ha.:stuck_out_tongue:

gabby

10-17-2005, 01:29 AM

tama kayong lahat:) at natutuwa ako on all your opinions:king: its true that getting to be married is a lot of adjustments.unfortun ately i called my mom i ask her about on this topic and she answered me things to make my mind so clear she told me na kaya mo nga pinakasalan ang asawa mo dahil mahal mo sya and you have to accept all the good and bad in him,which is so right…Malambing kasi akong tao which is i want to be pampered always,and i know naman na his a jap not a fil so siguro nakukumpara ko na sya which is wrong naman db?You guys mabait talaga si lord kasi lastnite my hubby hugs me so tight na kinaiyak ko,and guest what he said luv u mama:sweeties: ewan ko ba siguro he feels na naging malungkot ako lately.he said sorry and yun na ok na kami…sabi nya mahal na mahal daw nya ako at ako lang ang gusto nyang makasama habang buhay:love: hay salamat sa inyong lahat:toast: di
Kaya nga ayoko sa mga malalambing na mga Filipina. Nagiging istupido ako. Ang daming hinihingi tapus pag-hindi napagbigyan hindi ka na kakausapin, pinag-bagsakan ka nang telepono, tapus pag-hindi mo na papansinin tatawagan ka sa phone pero pag-sinagot mo hindi ka sasagutin. Pag-sinusuyo mo para sa forgivenes o kayay para magkabalikan lalong nag-hard to get. Tapus pag pinagbigyan mo naman nakakatakot. Sasabihin sa iyo; BILMOKO NYAN,BILMOKO NON. Kaya buti na lang Hapon ang asawa ko.

Hungry eyes

10-17-2005, 08:45 AM

Ikaw talaga gabby…konti lang naman ang bilmoko sa pinay…baka yun natiyempuhan mo ay sabik.lol.you are very lucky sa mrs mo…mas bilmoko ang mga japanese:rolleyes: .branded addict pa huh!maganda yun bringing up ng mrs mo.pero alam nyo inggit ako sa inyo;) maganda married life nyo.kahit na may tampuhan minsan.ako walang usapan.walang tampuhan… pinagtampuhan nang panahon:eek:

mica

10-17-2005, 09:22 AM

mas nakakatakot ang mga haponesa noh!pero hindi naman lahat:) kunwari pa kayo diba yun naman ang gusto nyong mga lalake pakipot hahaha…pero mas da best pa rin kaming mga pilipina hahamakin ang lahat mapagsilbihan lang kayo at masunod lang ang gusto nyo diba mga girls?:smiley: gagawin ka pang baby:sweeties: you know gabby my husband told me na iba talaga daw ang pag-asikaso ng mga pinay lahat ibibigay:)

mica

10-17-2005, 09:27 AM

pwede ba kitang tawaging ate?how old r you na?me im 29yrs.old 5yrs ng kasal with 2 babies:)

Hungry eyes

10-17-2005, 09:34 AM

Hi Mica… ako ba tinutukoy mo? kahit hindi ako yun.pwede mo din akong maging ate.im 35.18years na dito sa japan.nilulumot na.:smiley: lol.i have 2 daughters. 16 & 11 years old.sayang si gabby ano?hindi nya alam ang true nature ng pilipina:p opps.joke lang (gabby)ok lang basta masaya ka gabby gabby(hahahaha)

mica

10-17-2005, 09:43 AM

naku ang lalaki na pala ng mga anak mo ako isang 4yrs.old at isang 3months old:p tama ka ate basta masaya si gabby,gabby-gabby…hahahahaha:) joke,joke.joke;)

Hungry eyes

10-17-2005, 09:48 AM

Thank you mica.ang lalaki na nga ng mga kids ko wala naman akong anak na lalaki(son)hahhaha,s abagay magkatunog naman eh.pag gusto mo nang kausap.nandito lang ako.pwede rin tayong mag chat.off lang ako sa work.alam ko naman na di ka pwede gabby gabby kasi may baby ka.here my ym id(blestakki)tabi tabi lang po kay gabby…:wink:

mica

10-17-2005, 09:51 AM

pwede ba kitang iadd sa buddy list ko?:slight_smile:

Hungry eyes

10-17-2005, 09:53 AM

yes…welcome

mica

10-17-2005, 09:59 AM

thank you:) ate pag off ka sa work or hindi busy minsan email mo ako ha!o kaya pm mo ako :smiley:

fisher

10-28-2005, 10:34 PM

Hi mica! I know why sometimes you don’t uderstand japanese men.It is because you don’t try to.And you often use your head and not your heart.Besides, you said “sometimes”. I think not uderstanding someone applies to any race not only japanese men.One thing is you married a person with different customs and traditions with that of yours.It is natural that you can’t understand him sometimes.My wife is a japanese.We have had many misunderstanding too but we try to work them out patiently because we know that we cannot impose to each other the way we think.We are now on our 15th year and we have a bright and beautiful daughter.We are happy.We use a lot of our hearts than our heads.Try it!And you will hear your husband again telling you “Luv U Mama”.

love0308

09-16-2006, 02:48 PM

I dont believe that because you have different race, customs and traditons is you will not understand them. Ako I am married with a japanese man so far no problem with nuances of races. I think kaya di mo siya maintindihan is your longing for too much. Try to think ano bang nagbago at bakit? You mean ba mas sweet siya dati, kung di na siya sweet ngayun di umpisahan mo. Talk with each other about your past love life. Yung mga ginagawa nyo nung mag boyfriend pa lang kayo, malay mo ma awaken siya na nag bago pala siya. Baka naman pressure din siya sa trabaho niya. Pag dumarating ba siya from work tinatanong mo ba siya kong how is his day in work. Open communication lang po.:slight_smile:

proud me

09-16-2006, 04:38 PM

last year pa itong Thread na ito…pero magandang topic para sa wife ng japanese…siguro minsan yong nararamdaman na nag-bago si partner…dapat isipin din natin na iba na ang sitwasyon ng buhay may asawa…kung baga lumalaki ang responsibilidad ng bawat isa…yong ganitong bagay kahit na sa anong lahi pareho…yong kulang sa sweet ang japanese…siguro lahat naman tayo nakakaramdam o makakaramdam ng ganun…yong ganung bagay siguro hanggat kaya natin i-cover gawin nalang natin…siguro hindi nga kasi ganun yong style nila para ipakita yong pagmamahal nila sa partner nila…basta araw-araw umu-uwi siya…pakiramdaman baka pagod din sya sa work o may problema sa financial o sa trabaho na ayaw lang nya sabihin…masasanay rin siguro tayo sa style nila at matututo ring maunawaan…:slight_smile:

hayaren

09-16-2006, 11:17 PM

hello mica, parehas pa tayo ng edad, cool. Anyway, accept your husband for what he is, have you done some reality check on yourself? Hubby ko rin Japanese, he just turned 33, you know men they mature late in life we women are more advanced. It’s not his background that resounds who he is, even my husband he is already americanize pero nananaig pa rin yung pagkahapon nya in some circumstances. Japanese men they are really laid back when it comes to expressing their emotions, once my hubby told me this “I might not say it, we’re far from each other most of the time, you don’t see me physically but you have to be sure of one thing from me, that I will and I am always in love too much with you all throughout my silence”. I never nag, brag my hubby or manipulate him, I allow him to have his independence considering sa edad niya. So far, we’re the best of friends di boring di ba?

japina

09-17-2006, 07:48 PM

kahit iba tayo ng lahi sa kanila, walang problema mo dun hindi naman sila mahirap intindihin. siguro yun mga sweet things sa ibang way nila pinapapakita. kahit sumitai sila minsan hayaan lang natin basta tay0 mga wifey huwag magbago ng pakikitungo sa mga habibi natin kasi soon matuto rin sila. tulad ko dati minsan lang magsabi ng i love you asawa ko, pero ngayon halos everyday na. kasi ganun din ako sa kanya everyday i tell him that i love him.

honey

09-18-2006, 12:15 AM

sa amin ng hubby ko dumarating yan na hindi ko sya maintindihan kaya hindi ko na lang pinagpipilitan ang gusto ko para walang arguement na mangyari ayaw ko ng argumento o mahabang usapan iwas agad ako dyan :slight_smile: para walang away…

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